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When you have heard that the person you have been sharing a relationship has moved on after your breakup, you may not be too beat up about it. But when you find out they have moved on and are sleeping with someone else, well you pretty much want to sleep in your coat closet for a couple of days. Well at least that's how I feel. I mean what are the rules concerning when someone that just left a relationship can start sleeping with others? A week, a month, hours? Well it depends, obviousy if you are the one that broke up with the other than there is no time limit. The one that got left behind is doomed to either sleep with the closest person available or not want sex for the next 10 years.
But am I allowed to get jealous or feel somewhat disappointed? I mean they are no longer required to be loyal to me. Then again, if I would have showed them loyalty to begin with, then I wouldn't be sleeping in the coat closet. I guess my point is that after you have broken up with someone, you wil be given a choice on whether to stay friends with that person or just cut ties permanently. If you decide to remain friends and keep in touch, just make sure not to ask questions that may have answers you are not ready to accept.
Sometimes I dwell on the past because of what I have lost. I am too blind to see the future right now, because my heart is stuck in the past. Too many questions but never any answers. This is how you feel when the most important things to you in life are gone. We constantly think what could have been if the right decisions were made.
In life, there are lessons and if you do not learn from them, than you are doomed to repeat them. How many times does it take for someone to touch a hot stove before they learn not to touch the stove. For some, they heed advice and never touch, but for others they continue until their hand has been burned several times. In love, the same lessons apply, you have to learn from your mistakes and look back at what you could have done differently in order for the love to prosper. Now in love there is one aspect you have no control over and that is the other person. This is where blind faith comes in. You can't tell if that person will love you as much as they say they will until time has passed for them to show you or not show you. The only thing you can do is hope that they will love you as much as you love them back.
Cheaters never prosper. It is an old saying, one that has fallen out of common usage and replaced by quotes such as "Honesty is the best policy." I lie awake at night thinking of that very truth. The person I should have been most honest with was myself. When you are in a relationship, you need to be mindful of the things happening in your relationship. Let's assume you want your relationship to last, then communication is the key. If things are going bad then you sit with your significant other (no matter how hard it may be) and make sure they leave the conversation understanding what exactly you are not happy with and if a compromise can be made. If things are going good in a relationship, than the need to communicate that you appreciate your significant other and let them know you enjoy being with them is paramount.
Communicating honestly with each other is the holy grail to a good and decent relationship whether be it marriage or a new boyfriend/girlfriend. Simple ways of communicating can be just as helpful to a relationship as those long talks. Your mate will enjoy little signs of how much you love them but at the same time, make sure that what they want from a relationship is something you want and things that make them happy don't always mean will make you happy. This is just one of the joys when dealing with another human being.
Your addiction always has a way of revealing itself at the wrong time. If you look in the media today you will see stories of that exact truth now being exposed, none bigger than Tiger Woods. His penchant to sleep with other women even while married has been exposed not when he was an up and coming golfer, not before he became the most recognizable athlete in the world, but was revealed when he was at the top of his game.
Even in stories past, for example there were always rumblings of Bill Clinton's infidelity way before he became president. The stories never fully surfaced but when he was in his second term and looking to end a successful candidacy, he laid in bed with temptation and was revealed. People are humans which means they are imperfect. Some want you to think they are mightier than thou, but each one of us has an addiction we are not proud of. Temptation is as powerful as you allow it to be. By yourself, you may fall and the path leads to pain and sorrow, but with help and support from friends and family temptation is not as strong.